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In Mediation Should You Drop Your Pearls?

mediation is different, just like every family is different.  Different personalities and different ways of perceiving solutions to problems bring different results.  And with all that differing should mediators drop their pearls of wisdom and share past experiences? Let's face it, we all see solutions to problems based on our past experiences.  Mediators are no different. ...
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Mediation? Mediation Defined.

"What is mediation?" should be the first thing people ask when they call me.  Instead, the first question is, "What does it cost?"  That's a hard question to answer when I don't know what it is you think I do.  Maybe I don't even do it at all. ...
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Holiday Season Traditions After Separation

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Making Holiday Season traditions work after separation?

If this is your first Holiday Season after your separation  it's likely that some of your family traditions will change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst.  Either way, what was norm is no longer so how do you reach...
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Mediation in a Pluralistic Society

broken-1739131_640 "Mediation in a Pluralistic Society" was the vibrant topic that graced the walls of the third floor of The Law Society of Upper Canada this afternoon. The room was packed with Dispute Resolution Professionals. Most, of course, were Mediators but there were also many Family Law Lawyers,...
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Financial Conflict in Marriage?

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Financial Conflict in Marriage?

If you are experiencing financial conflict in your marriage it's best to take it seriously.  You don't want to end up in my office negotiating your divorce, after all.  Perhaps a better option would be to get some financial counselling.  If...
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The Cost of Divorce? What to Consider.

cost-1174922_640The Cost of Divorce - The Money Cost

When divorcees think about the cost of divorce they often think about the money cost.  Typically, the first thing that comes to mind is how much their lawyer is going to bill them.  Fear of the unknown legal sum...
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Imaginable Divorce Solutions

  bulb-40701_640Imaginable divorce solutions create unique families situations.  Family law is created from precedence and the law gives us guidance as to how to resolve the family transition of a separating couple.  Even though everyone's family is different there are certain guidelines that clients are 'boxed' into when they are...
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What About the Furniture?

settee-147701__180So, what about the furniture?  Clients will often ask how to deal with the furniture when they divorcing.  Sometimes the physical items also include things like tools, music and camera equipment.  How are these things to be valued and split in a reasonable fashion? There are a few options available to couples when it...
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How Long Will It Take?

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"How Long Will It Take?"

"How long will it take?" followed by "How much will it cost?" are, often, the two first questions people ask when they have committed to getting a divorce.  As I am not a lawyer, I'll address the answer to this question as a...
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