Ex's & Oh's Blog

Wrong Divorce Process

Ever feel that you, or someone you know, has chosen the wrong divorce process?  I see it all the time.  Some folks go to lawyers who they feel will 'fight' for them when the could have sat down with their soon-to-be-Ex and a mediator and worked out their agreement themselves.  Or some people go to mediation but...
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A Restorative Justice Story “A Better Man”

If you missed "A Better Man" at Toronto's 2017 Hot Docs Festival this Spring you can still catch it at hotdocs Ted Rogers Cinema starting June 9.  "A Better Man" is a documentary about family abuse and restorative justice.  Restorative justice is a system of criminal justice that focuses on the rehabilitation of offenders through reconciliation...
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Financial Disclosure: Divorce For Less

Everybody wants to divorce for less.  Less of a cost, that is.  But there is a fine balance between a job well done and getting what you pay for.  Most people I talk to want it all, the information, the guidance around their rights and obligations and all their disclosure documents tied up in a...
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Travel For Less?

Travel for Less?

If you want to travel for less money you might want to use a little trick that I use all the time.  It's no secret to those who know me well that I love to explore our world.  Oddly enough, it doesn't cost me as much as one would think. Here's how I travel...
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How To Argue Effectively in Mediation Negotiations

Divorcing people are, typically, under a lot of stress and sometimes they forget how to argue effectively during their mediation negotiations.  Stressful situations often bring out the worst in people.  Remember, however, that in mediation you are trying to work out a reasonable deal with your soon-to-be-Ex.  Is that person likely to give you any...
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In Mediation Should You Drop Your Pearls?

mediation is different, just like every family is different.  Different personalities and different ways of perceiving solutions to problems bring different results.  And with all that differing should mediators drop their pearls of wisdom and share past experiences? Let's face it, we all see solutions to problems based on our past experiences.  Mediators are no different. ...
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Mediation? Mediation Defined.

"What is mediation?" should be the first thing people ask when they call me.  Instead, the first question is, "What does it cost?"  That's a hard question to answer when I don't know what it is you think I do.  Maybe I don't even do it at all. ...
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Holiday Season Traditions After Separation

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Making Holiday Season traditions work after separation?

If this is your first Holiday Season after your separation  it's likely that some of your family traditions will change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst.  Either way, what was norm is no longer so how do you reach...
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Mediation in a Pluralistic Society

broken-1739131_640 "Mediation in a Pluralistic Society" was the vibrant topic that graced the walls of the third floor of The Law Society of Upper Canada this afternoon. The room was packed with Dispute Resolution Professionals. Most, of course, were Mediators but there were also many Family Law Lawyers,...
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Financial Conflict in Marriage?

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Financial Conflict in Marriage?

If you are experiencing financial conflict in your marriage it's best to take it seriously.  You don't want to end up in my office negotiating your divorce, after all.  Perhaps a better option would be to get some financial counselling.  If...
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