Ex's & Oh's Blog

What’s A House Worth in a Divorce Scenario????

What's a house worth in a divorce scenario? Because the family home is, typically, the biggest asset a couple acquires during their marriage a lot of consideration goes into how to value it. The answer, not surprisingly, is that it depends. If the intention is to sell the house then the value is based on...
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CFDS or CFDA? What’s the difference?

If you are thinking to work with a CFDS (Certified Financial Divorce Specialist) or a CFDA (Certified Financial Divorce Analyst) to help you navigate through the financial part of your separation negotiations ensure you do your research. As both accreditations sugggest the same type service you might be thinking they are the same thing....
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Mediation Online Considerations

Online mediation is often considered for searches through the Internet.  Divorcing couples have very different reasons for wanting an online approach to resolve their family matters.

Geographic

Perhaps, couples are too geographically distant to enable a meeting to take place.  Some people are not only cities apart but also oceans apart which makes traditional mediation difficult and...
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The Undivorce – Separating To Stay Together

I call this trend the "undivorce" as it seems that couples are coming to mediation to save their relationships rather than unwind them.  'Fresh start' are often the words used to describe the couples' intention.  With a parenting plan in place and their financial world separated, spouses can rework a new path to intimacy, respect...
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Mobility Issues and Divorce

When negotiating divorce, mobility issues are discussed if children are involved.  Mobility refers to the distance the parents agree that they can live apart, on a particular point on the map, for the parenting plan to work.  Often, it's the child's school or the centre of town.  It's whatever map point that seems reasonable, at...
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Wrong Divorce Process

Ever feel that you, or someone you know, has chosen the wrong divorce process?  I see it all the time.  Some folks go to lawyers who they feel will 'fight' for them when the could have sat down with their soon-to-be-Ex and a mediator and worked out their agreement themselves.  Or some people go to mediation but...
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A Restorative Justice Story “A Better Man”

If you missed "A Better Man" at Toronto's 2017 Hot Docs Festival this Spring you can still catch it at hotdocs Ted Rogers Cinema starting June 9.  "A Better Man" is a documentary about family abuse and restorative justice.  Restorative justice is a system of criminal justice that focuses on the rehabilitation of offenders through reconciliation...
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Financial Disclosure: Divorce For Less

Everybody wants to divorce for less.  Less of a cost, that is.  But there is a fine balance between a job well done and getting what you pay for.  Most people I talk to want it all, the information, the guidance around their rights and obligations and all their disclosure documents tied up in a...
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Travel For Less?

Travel for Less?

If you want to travel for less money you might want to use a little trick that I use all the time.  It's no secret to those who know me well that I love to explore our world.  Oddly enough, it doesn't cost me as much as one would think. Here's how I travel...
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How To Argue Effectively in Mediation Negotiations

Divorcing people are, typically, under a lot of stress and sometimes they forget how to argue effectively during their mediation negotiations.  Stressful situations often bring out the worst in people.  Remember, however, that in mediation you are trying to work out a reasonable deal with your soon-to-be-Ex.  Is that person likely to give you any...
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