If you are thinking to work with a CFDS (Certified Financial Divorce Specialist) or a CFDA (Certified Financial Divorce Analyst) to help you navigate through the financial part of your separation negotiations ensure you do your research. As both accreditations sugggest the same type service you might be thinking they are the same thing....more
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Online mediation is often considered for searches through the Internet. Divorcing couples have very different reasons for wanting an online approach to resolve their family matters.more
GeographicPerhaps, couples are too geographically distant to enable a meeting to take place. Some people are not only cities apart but also oceans apart which makes traditional mediation difficult and...
I call this trend the "undivorce" as it seems that couples are coming to mediation to save their relationships rather than unwind them. 'Fresh start' are often the words used to describe the couples' intention. With a parenting plan in place and their financial world separated, spouses can rework a new path to intimacy, respect...more
When negotiating divorce, mobility issues are discussed if children are involved. Mobility refers to the distance the parents agree that they can live apart, on a particular point on the map, for the parenting plan to work. Often, it's the child's school or the centre of town. It's whatever map point that seems reasonable, at...more
Ever feel that you, or someone you know, has chosen the wrong divorce process? I see it all the time. Some folks go to lawyers who they feel will 'fight' for them when the could have sat down with their soon-to-be-Ex and a mediator and worked out their agreement themselves. Or some people go to mediation but...more
If you missed "A Better Man" at Toronto's 2017 Hot Docs Festival this Spring you can still catch it at hotdocs Ted Rogers Cinema starting June 9. "A Better Man" is a documentary about family abuse and restorative justice. Restorative justice is a system of criminal justice that focuses on the rehabilitation of offenders through reconciliation...more
Everybody wants to divorce for less. Less of a cost, that is. But there is a fine balance between a job well done and getting what you pay for. Most people I talk to want it all, the information, the guidance around their rights and obligations and all their disclosure documents tied up in a...more
Travel for Less?If you want to travel for less money you might want to use a little trick that I use all the time. It's no secret to those who know me well that I love to explore our world. Oddly enough, it doesn't cost me as much as one would think. Here's how I travel...
Divorcing people are, typically, under a lot of stress and sometimes they forget how to argue effectively during their mediation negotiations. Stressful situations often bring out the worst in people. Remember, however, that in mediation you are trying to work out a reasonable deal with your soon-to-be-Ex. Is that person likely to give you any...more
mediation is different, just like every family is different. Different personalities and different ways of perceiving solutions to problems bring different results. And with all that differing should mediators drop their pearls of wisdom and share past experiences? Let's face it, we all see solutions to problems based on our past experiences. Mediators are no different. ...more